An Entrepreneur’s Journey

Met up with a friend tonight, he showed me another perspective in life. He’s one friend whom we had knew each other for years but never sat down one on one to chat. Most of the time we are out in a big group. This is the first time we met up to chat.

For the past few years, I don’t like to chat up with friends. I felt it was a waste of my time to do that as I can get so many things done with those few hours of chatting.

I had this realization last month. Being able to chat with friends, having a group of friends to support me is part of life. Life is about experiencing different things, being who I am, being able to strike a balance.

In the past, I was too caught up in chasing after money, building my business; and I had missed out on many other things in life. Building a career is only a small part of life, there are many other things to life.

Currently, I’m still adding value to my clients, building my business, and at the same time, I am also investing time with my friends, slowing down my pace to understand myself more. Doing things that I usually don’t do in the past. I am enjoying every minute of my time now.

Many years back, his life was in a spin, but I am happy now that he is very sure of his direction, enjoying his freedom and being who he is.

I am so blessed that I have many great friends around me. I give thanks that I am aware of life right now. I am much more fortunate than many others who are chasing after things that do not give them true happiness.

Now I live to enjoy my life to the fullest.

A long chat with a good friend since many months ago. I would say tt was the best chat we had after so many years as friend.

For a long time, he was my closest friend, however, our conversation always stays at the level of cappuccino talk or the most business talk. We never went deeper than that. Somehow I wonder why, is it me or him?

The opportunity came when we discussed about few of our common friends. I grab the chance to tell him that though we know each other for so long but our friendship seems to have stagnant.

He does agree with me, follow by sharing the reason of me being closed up; well, what’s new. He saw the change in me now, and he’s more willing to share his inner feeling with me.

Well, friend, I may be closed up, you are reserved too. But hey, I see the change in you too.

I felt so complete that he will share his stuff with me, and vice versa. What can be better to have a improvement of friendship.

From last night, this thought is bugging me. There is a decision I must decide. Well, it’s not really a big thing, but still a decision I have to make.

It’s so not me to hold on to a decision for so long. I guess this decision is not an urgent one, and it probably will not have any huge impact to anyone.

I do know that I should not be so indecisive, thinking about it for so long. I know it because that’s what I told many of my friends in making decision. Successful people makes decision fast. But at this point of time, I just don’t want to make that decision yet.

I will definitely make one when it’s time to make one.

You mind is the most powerful tool that you own. If your mind is the most powerful tool, shouldn’t you take good care of it?

Why would I say that your mind is the most powerful tool that you own? The reason: your mind creates your result physically and spiritually. If you are not careful, your mind will turn around to control you.

Your mind can process 60,000 thoughts a day. Pretty amazing huh! Imagine all 60,000 thoughts are worries or negativity, this is going to corrupt you mind. If your mind is a computer, then these worries are viruses waiting to launch an attack.

Let say we reduce it to 10,000 negative thoughts. It is still scary isn’t it?

The point that I’m driving is this, even if it’s one negative thought, this one that sneak in can still destroy the whole system.

In the movie, Spiderman 3, the black alien that came to earth stick onto Spiderman. Initially, it was only a small little dirty alien. But once it attach itself to the host, it grow. Slowly and gradually, it takes over the host.

Negative thought behaves the same way as the small little dirty alien. It sneaks in without you realize it. In time to come, it will take over you completely.

You must arrest the negative thoughts in your mind as soon as you find them. Replace them with positive ones. It does takes awareness to discover those negative thoughts.

Some people are aware of it, while some never find it in their whole life. There are also some who found it, but allow it to take over them.

When you have worrisome thoughts, you probably feel tired all the time or you just don’t have energy to do things. Having worrisome thoughts is a draining process.

Thinking requires energy, channeling your energy to think about worries is simply draining your life force away. Do you know that you used double the energy to think of worries than positive ones.

Reflect back to the time that you were worried. Are you getting tired easily? Your energy is simple leaking out to feed your worries.

Imagine you are floating on the sea with an inflatable float. There’s a needle size hole on the float causing a leak of air. Slowly and slowly the air is leaking out from the needle size hole. What do you think will happen? You will sink, once there is no more air in the inflatable float.

Worries and negativity feeds on your energy. Having any one of them in your mind, and soon you find yourself having an energy leakage. You got to fix it, or you will sink.

Become aware of it. Arrest it. Replace it. You control your mind, or your mind will control you.

“Butterflies can’t see their beautiful wings, yet that does not stop them from opening their wings”

by Roger Hamilton

Heard this statement in National Achievers’ Congress from Roger, and I thought of sharing it here. This statement is so very true.

Upon hearing this statement, I reflected on the behaviour of human being, a thought came into mind. How often we as human open our wings and fly?

How many times you did not open your wings because you are unsure? How many times you forgo the chances of flying because you are afraid? How many times you did not step out because you are can’t see your own abilities?

The wings of butterflies are so beautiful and colorful, it’s a pity they can’t see their beautiful wings. Yet they are not worried at all, they just spread their wings and fly. In the process, allowing us to admire their beautiful wings.

You are smarter, better, cleverer than those butterflies. Why can’t you do the same? Opening up and fly. Because you are worrisome creature. Because you have a mind that can think. Sometimes you allow this mind of yours to control you.

You think so much, analyze so much until you are paralyze. If you can behave like the butterflies, open up your wings and fly, regardless of fear or any worries, you can achieve so much more, you can add so much more values to the world.

Many a times, you doubt your own inabilities, and limit yourselves in your own world, trapped in your own thinking; resulted in you couldn’t achieve what you should be achieving.

The inabilities in you is self created from your mind. You created the fear in your mind, which in actual fact you do have the ability to do get what you want.

Your playing small will not serve the world. Yet you remain in your own world playing your own small game. You are here for a purpose; to add value to this world.

You may not see the real purpose of being here, but that should not stop you from adding value to the world. That should not stop you from opening up your wings. In the process, someone will see your beautiful wings, someone will appreciate your effort.

Why not open up your wings and fly? You will do no harm to anyone including yourself when you start on your journey. On the other hand, you add value to the world when you play it big. Shift yourself to a position to play big in this world.

Are you ready to open your wings today?

I had an distinction on standing in front of the room from my last entrepreneurship training. I learned a trick from Dom in the last ITP which is to stand away from the participant when he/she is asking a question.

Most trainers will have the tendency to move in to the participant who is asking question, however, Dom showed me a different way to do that. Dom practices walking away from the participants when they are asking a question.

The reason of him doing that is so that he can enrolled the whole room into the conversation. Usually when a trainer moved closer to the particular participant who is asking a question, it can become a conversation between the participant and the trainer only, and actually lose some of the participants in the room.

Dom wants to enrolled the whole room by moving away from the participant who is asking the question, he wants to get all the participants to be involved in the conversation.

This is such a powerful technique that I believed that no other Train the Trainer’s course will cover.

And I had a distinction on using this technique. To apply this technique, the trainer has to be very powerful from within. The trainer got to have the clarity and beingness to support the participant who is asking the question.

Walking away from the participant, creates a distance between the trainer and the participant. It takes greater energy to support whoever is asking questions, it takes even more energy to enrol the whole room.

I applied it to one of the recent training that I conducted, and realize it’s not as easy as it seems. It requires a lot from me to stand away from that particular participant, refrain myself from moving in.

This is one huge distinction I got. I always thought it’s easy, but I have a tendency to move in to participants who are asking questions. Now this is one thing I must work on.

I must continue to work on myself to achieve mastery in this area.

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Yesterday when I woke up, the music of this song, came to my mind, making me humming this song for the whole day. A beautiful song, Grow Old With You by Adam Sandler, a soundtrack in the movie, The Wedding Singer.

The movie is also one of the best film that I loved. Though it’s not full of action packed, it was the simplicity and sweetness of the movie that attracted me.

Present this song to all loving couples. Grow Old With You.

I wanna make you smile whenever you’re sad
Carry you around when your arthritis is bad
All I wanna do is grow old with you.
I’ll get your medicine when your tummy aches
build you a fire if the furnace breaks
Oh it could be so nice, growing old with you.
I’ll miss you, kiss you, give you my coat when you are cold.
Need you, feed you, I’ll even let you hold the remote control.
So let me do the dishes in the kitchen sink
Put you to bed when you’ve had too much to drink.
Oh I could be the man to grow old with you.
I wanna grow old with you.

While I was having lunch today, I overheard a conversation between a mum and her young boy.

Mum: If mummy is not happy, would I treat you nicely?
Boy: (shake his head)
Mum: Why should you make mummy happy?
Boy: (keep quiet)
Mum: So now you know why you should treat parents nicely?

When I heard the conversation, I turned around, looked for the mum, asking myself “why do parents teach their kids in this way? Don’t they know that has a negative impact to their child?”

What the mum said may seems so right. A child should treat his parent well, however, in this instances what was the mum trying to advocate?

The boy will learn that the reason to treat his parent well is because in return they will treat him well. In order for him to feel love, he must not make his mum angry. He’ll get attention from his mum only when his mum is happy.

What crap is this?

Whether it’s parents to child or child to parents, unconditional love is always happening. From the conversation, the mum is teaching her kid to put a condition to that mother-child love. She may not have that intention in the first place, but as a young boy, he doesn’t filter things that his parent said to him.

This boy will grow up having this belief system of conditional love for people. “Only if you treat me well, I will love you” kind of crap.Loving your parents should comes from unconditional love and not expecting something in return.

I have no right to teach the parents, however, I can teach the kids. I believe that’s the reason why I’m on this business, on this path.

I am thankful that my parents love me unconditionally. Thank you mum, thank you dad.

昨天想着这位好朋友。 这位朋友一直以来都在支持者我。而我却一直以来不知道他为我付出这麽多。作为一个朋友的我，感觉上我太“滥”了。

当我想着他的时候，我也深深的体会到真正的友情。友情这东西，在几年前我以忘记它了。是这位知己唤醒我的记忆，让我从新找到了自己，从新找到友情。

好朋友，我只想让你知道我无时无刻都在想着你。