Tell The Truth With Compassion
What is the truth? Someone mentioned that if he has a business idea, how much truth (the business idea) should he shared with others, just in case others will copy his idea? In this context, the truth may not be the business ideas but something more profound.
How do we tell the truth with compassion? How do we tell the truth without hurting others? Has it got to do with intention of telling? You have to come from wanting to support and help the person. It must not comes from the ego side of you. Wanting to make the other person wrong does not help in supporting the others.
Coming from compassion. How? How do we know it is coming from compassion? You know it by the essence and the words you used. Another point of view is we can slap the person hard yet comes from a total compassion mode. So compassion doesn’t mean communicating nicely or softly but truthfully. You may communicate in a hard way but totally comes from a supporting angle. The question is by going in forcefully, will it back fire?
So what if you present the truth with compassion, but that person takes it too hard or couldn’t accept it. This flipchart “tell the truth with compassion” is weigh more towards the deliverer than the receiver. The role of the deliverer is to present the truth, he doesn’t care what the receiver’s reaction. Deliverer just tell the truth. The delivery is not responsible for the reaction of the receiver.
Many a times, we are too concern about hurting the other party that we hold back presenting the truth to them. This happens in relationship, in business, in friendship etc.
We didn’t realize that by holding back, we are not allowing our partners and friends to have a chance to grow. We are not being supportive by hiding the truth from them. It seems that we are trying not to hurt their feelings, yet on the flip side, we are actually hurting them by allowing them to behave in a certain way that doesn’t serves them.
Have you been holding back all the time? Is telling the truth hard for you? Are you trying to be Mr or Mrs Nice? Are you not allowing the person close to you to grow by hiding the truth from them? Is it time to tell the truth with compassion?
